Today is the 75th anniversary of D-Day when over 160,000 soldiers invaded Normandy, France, the largest seaborne operation in our history and a turning point in WWII.
The number of people who suffered on that day is overwhelming. So, I look for inspiration from individual stories of the people who worked silently to end the war. Many of these people are unknown to us, but they have had a big impact on their families and the people that knew them.
Today I would like to share with you one of these incredible stories of my friend's mother. Her story left a lasting impression with me ever since she shared it last summer. Thank you Elizabeth Faucher for sharing your mother's incredible strength with us.
Maralyn Spencer’s dad, Walt, called her Joey, and always had a special soft spot for this spunky girl who defied so many of the conventions of her day. Born in 1922, she was the barely younger sister of “pretty & proper” Jeanne, a tomboy and A student whose sharp intellect was always leavened by a kindness that drew people to her. Until her younger brother came along, Joey was the one who played catch with her dad, read the Great Books she was destined to later teach, never missed a day of school all the way through high school, and picked up a lifelong love of bowling by tagging along to the lanes with her dad to his weekly league play.
After graduating high school at the top of her class, Maralyn went to work for the phone company, glad to have a job in 1940 but a little restless in Des Moines Iowa. A little more than a year later, at the age of 19, she heard the call to serve her country. What she said was: “Dad, I’ve been thinking a lot about this, and someone from our family needs to serve – Jack is too young, and I think I should be the one to go. I want to enlist in the Coast Guard!” On the walk home from the recruiting center, where she had needed to have a parent “co-sign” with her to enlist, Walt said “Joey, what did your mother say when you told her about this?” she said – with a big laugh - “Oh Daddy, I thought YOU would tell her!!”
In a matter of weeks, Maralyn had moved to Washington DC, joining many thousands of women serving in support positions for various branches of the service. As a member of the coast guard, she primarily worked in the cryptography area, essentially doing the arduous and highly manual work of code-breaking. While this was very serious and important work, the move to Washington DC was also an adventure for a confident and somewhat adventurous young woman from the Midwest. The city was buzzing and exciting, filled with other idealistic but committed young people, and particularly for Maralyn, many like-minded young women who had strong ideas about what they could contribute to the war effort. While she was in the service, Maralyn even earned her pilot’s license, but she always saw the day to day work that she and her fellow SPARS, WAVES and WACs performed was the essential foundation to the war effort, so she never tired of the grinding nature of her cryptography work.
After the war was over, Maralyn took advantage of the GI bill to go to college, finishing her degree in accounting in just 2.5 years. One of her professors had encouraged her to aim higher than the bookkeeping courses she had been steered to, since she had such an aptitude for math and business. After graduating and sitting for the CPA exam – and passing all four parts in her first try – she applied for a job with the IRS, which involved taking the civil service exam. The examiners discouraged her from bothering to take it – telling her that veterans would be favored to get any available positions… With that winning smile that carried her through so many trials and tribulations in her life she said, jauntily – “that’s all right and good for me – I AM a VETERAN!!”
Maralyn went on to be a lifelong CPA and advisor to so many, mother of 7 and grandmother of 10, friend of hundreds and example to all…what an amazing life! #dday #womenx
“Strengthening our depth perception requires accurately seeing with both eyes. When we see with one eye, our vision is limited in range and devoid of depth. When we add to it the single vision of the other eye, our range vision becomes wider, but we still lack depth. This is only when both eyes see together that we accomplish full vision and accurate depth perception.”-Gerda Lerner
Why should we study Women’s History? The easy answer is, we must see clearly.
What drove Gerda Lerner to dedicate 50 years to study Women and African American history?
Born April 30, 1920 in Vienna Austria, Gerda Lerner was raised in a household with constant dueling ideologies. Her father was a pharmacist, while her mother pursued a bohemian lifestyle that advocated sexual freedom, vegetarianism, and explored avant garde art. With her parents seemingly moving in different direction, they chose to reinvented their marriage, rather than divorcing. Divorce would have stripped her mother, Ilona Kronstein, of custody of Gerda, and her sister, Nora. Other family members, including the girl’s grandmother, didn’t like the bohemian influence of Ilona Kronstein. Since her grandmother lived in a different apartment, but same house, she had regular access to the girls, which lead to a volatile environment. Robert Kronstein and his mother often opposed, Ilona’s idea and desires for herself and her children.
Lerner’s parents ended up living separate lives in the same home. Ilona had her own room, and eventually bought a separate studio where she hosted her various paramours. Robert Kronstein, did the same, acquiring a separate apartment for his mistress. Gerda and Nora had to make appointments to see their mother, their daily care mainly being handled by nannies and other caretakers. Although Gerda talks about the strain that this familial arrangement had on her relationship with her mother, in her autobiography Fireweed, observing her mothers unapologetic lifestyle was an early education in female independence that she appreciated later in life.
As Lerner got older she embraced more of her mother’s influence and began to see her mother as a victim, unwilling to conform to society’s idea of what a wife and mother should be. This led her to embrace jazz and modern literature, which was radical content at the time.
Throughout Lerner’s teen years she became more radicalized and was sent to England by her father, so she could learn the English language and to separate her from friends and a boyfriend he didn’t care for. Unfortunately, the family she stayed with were anti-Semites, so with permission from her father, she joined a youth camp in Wales held by Communist J B S Haldane that exposed her to Marxism.
At the start of World War II, Lerner arrived in the United States, sponsored by a boyfriend she married to get in the country and divorced in 1940. Soon after she met Carl Lerner, a Communist theater director. They married and moved to Los Angeles where Carl worked as a film editor and Gerda began writing short stories. They collaborated on screenplays, including Black Like Me in 1964, which Carl directed.
She soon became a national leader in the Congress of American Women (CAW), affiliated with the Women’s International Democratic Federation, influenced by Communist theories. With the CAW she worked with poor black women and began to understand the limitations of her own wealthy upbringing and the assumptions she had developed.
When challenges to Communism's arrived, Carl Lerner’s career in Hollywood ended. They moved back to New York where they settled into a home in Astoria, Queens. The Lerner’s wanted to expose their children to as many cultures as possible. Gerda became active in women’s groups like the National Organization for Women (NOW) and the Parent Teach Association. NOW included black women, union members, and more leftist views. At age 38, Gerda started college and received a B.A. and PhD from Columbia University. Writing her dissertation on the Grimke sisters, children of slave owners that became antislavery activists and early women’s rights activists, was her way of furthering her belief in racial and gender equality.
Her dedication to equality continued for the rest of her life. Her book Black Women in White America is one of her most influential writings. There was so little information about black women’s experience but her book proved that African American women’s history could be written.
As a professor at Sarah Lawrence College she wanted to build a women’s history program, but was met with rejection because administrators felt, since they were a women’s college, it was unnecessary. She succeeded in establishing a Masters program, which still exists today.
In the late 1980’s and early 1990’s, Lerner published in two parts, Creation of Patriarchy and Creation of Feminist Consciousness. In it, she outlined that the patriarchy was the first source of all oppression.
Gerda Lerner’s career is marked by clarity of how power dynamics work and higher consciousness of how we are all related; rejecting inequality and oppression based on class, race, and gender. She was unapologetic, and didn’t tolerate disrespect. Her instinct to fight made her a “nasty woman.”
So why should we study Women’s History? The hard acknowledgment is that, like so many revolutionary women, toward the end of her life, she continued to see the neglect of women in history, and the rise of xenophobia and racism throughout the world. Although there are lights of hope, more and more history is erased, white washed, or ignored. Someone must pick up the mantle and more hands make the load light.
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Friends called her “Daisy” and her siblings called her “Crazy Daisy” was born October 31, 1860 in Savanna Georgia. A strong, independent, resilient woman who historians speculate was dyslexic, was the founder of the Girls Scouts.
At a young age she was sent to boarding school and was raised to be loyal, dutiful and respectful of others all traits that Girl Scouts were taught.
Yet, Gordon had an empathy for others and unconventional outlook on life that set her apart. She had a reputation for eccentricity. Her siblings gave her the name “Crazy Daisy” because of her struggle to keep track of time, her frequent “experiments” that went awry, and her many acts of kindness that resulted in good-natured disasters.
It was most likely this spirit of adventure that lead her to explore the outdoors and travel the world. In 1886 Gordon married William Mackay Low and moved to England. Her good life soon took a turn for the bad. Because of her husband’s wealth, the Lows traveled often and socialized with the educated and monied. William eventually began spending more time apart from his wife, gambling, partying, hunting and splurging on extravagant toys.
Low who suffered from hearing loss due to rice from her wedding getting lodged in her ear, also spent time traveling to search for cures for her hearing loss. She also struggled with ovarian abscesses, the reason she never had children.
In 1901, Low learned of her husband’s relationship with actress Anna Bateman. During the process of leaving her husband and filing for divorce, her husband died of a seizure while on a trip with his mistress. At this point Low learned that her husband amended his will leaving his fortune to his mistress.
This is when her resilience and optimism served her well. In 1911, Low had a chance meeting with British general Robert Baden-Powell, a war hero and founder of the Boy Scouts. Baden-Powell founded the Boy Scouts with the intentions of training young boys for defense and preparedness in case of military invasion. Baden-Powell emphasized that the training should be fun, an idea that Juliette deeply appreciated.
The two shared a love of art and travel and instantly became friends.
The early troops, known as Girl Guides, were led by Baden-Powell’s 51 year old sister Agnes. This group was made up of all the girls who had appeared in their brother’s Boy Scout troops dressed in piecemeal uniforms eager to learn the same skills the boys were learning. Baden-Powell, Agnes and Low all agreed that the girls should have their own group.
Low started several troops in Scotland and London, for girls of varying income brackets. The effect on the girls’ self-esteem was so striking that Low decided she had to take the program to the United States, starting with her hometown of Savannah, Georgia.
On March 12, 1912 at the age of 52, Low registered the first troop of American Girl Guides.
Membership peaked in 2003 at 3.8M with notable names such as Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Condoleezza Rice, Venus Williams, Katie Couric, Mariah Carey and Taylor Swift.
76 percent of current female senators and 80 percent of current female governors were Girls Scouts.